First and foremost, we want to thank all the couples who have participated in our Bring Back the Butterflies promotion before and during National Marriage Week. It would not have been such a success if you weren’t invested in checking in with your relationship and aligned with our vision of bringing the butterflies back. We had many entries to our first date contest, ranging from videos, short stories, poems, haikus, art, etc, and we are so excited to share the 3 winners with the world. Grab the popcorn, sit back, relax, and embrace the butterflies.
The snow has fallen, wool socks have been pulled out of storage, fire places have been lit, winter is here and it has plateaued: don’t let your relationship do the same. Here’s the thing about complacency, it’s a natural part of a relationship’s journey, but it can be avoided. Leading up to National Marriage Week, the team at PREPARE/ENRICH wants to encourage you to keep your relationship on your mind. When you do this, you are already taking a step in the right direction to combat complacency. (more…)
Some first dates turn out flawless, they go exactly as planned. Your shirt remains free of pit stains, you manage to make your date laugh several times throughout the date, you hear doves singing in the distance, and at the end of the night, you seal the deal with a kiss. Other first dates? Not so much. Some end in heartbreak, some end in belly laughs, others may end in a shocking surprise.
I never had an outrageous or over the top first date, but my story makes me laugh every time I reminisce about it. I had been texting back and forth with this fascinating guy I had met (spoiler alert – he’s now my husband!). We decided to have a relaxed first date on a week night to see if the conversation was as good in person as it was over text. He invited me over to his house and we had planned to order pizza and watch movies. It had come to his attention that I had an embarrassingly long list of classic movies I had never seen and he was bound and determined to check a couple off the list. (more…)
It seems like everyone is setting goals for the new year, but I don’t think I will. Don’t get me wrong, goals are great in theory and help people achieve results. However, I’ve never had much luck with goals. I always end up either convincing myself the goal was out of reach to begin with or I talk myself into a simpler version of the goal and end up feeling guilty once I accomplish it.
So, I’m not setting goals for 2017, I’m setting intentions.
Imagine you are sitting at the outrageously decorated holiday table that your sister spent all morning setting. Your most loved relatives are sitting around you, chatting, laughing, and grazing. Your uncle starts up a conversation with your husband about politics from across the table. He makes a comment about an immigration policy and you completely disagree with him. You begin to feel agitated, your heart rate is increasing and your hands start to sweat. On top of the agitation you are experiencing, your anxiety level starts to rise. What is your husband thinking? How much longer should you wait to hear your uncle out before you chime in with your opinion? Should you chime in? (more…)
Time and time again, couples are faced with the struggle of defining their roles in their relationships. Who will clean the bathroom this weekend? Who is going to make dinner tomorrow? Who will wash the dishes tonight? What may start out as a simple chore can catapult into a battle for acknowledgement, assurance, or even power.
How often are you faced with the struggle of doing the laundry for the third time this month because your partner doesn’t seem to be bothered when the laundry basket begins to topple over with dirty clothes? You know it is their turn to do it, but you wish they would do it without you having to ask them. (more…)
The plane landed and I hurriedly walked to meet my ride. After having been gone for a five day business trip, I was eager to meet my family at my son’s flag football game. After we shared hugs and heard about the kids’ week, my husband informed me that he had moved everything out of our office to install some carpet. “Oh!” I said, trying to manage my surprise. He went on to say, “I labeled anything that I moved and organized it in bags and laundry baskets so you can find it.” Unsure what to say next, I replied, “Wow, that was a lot of work!” Inside, I was a mess of emotions ranging from, “Oh my, I wasn’t ready yet!” to, “I can’t believe he moved all my paperwork! How will I find…” to, “He was just trying to finish a project we had been planning,” to, “Don’t blow up. He put a lot of work into this. Show him respect. Calm down. It had to be done at some point.” (more…)
“Traveling – it leaves you speechless, then turns you into a storyteller.” – Ibn Battuta
Visiting new places, trying unfamiliar food, indulging in unique cultures, and seeing exotic sites are great ways to experience life to its fullest. However, traveling without your partner can be tough. When you travel for business, it can be hard to focus on work when you know your partner is not physically with you.
As a member of the PREPARE/ENRICH team, I travel a few times a year and it typically doesn’t bother me to be out of town for a few days. Earlier this week, I traveled from Minnesota to California to attend the Exponential West conference. Before I left, I was already feeling anxious about missing my husband. As I was packing my suitcase the night before my flight, I began to prepare for my time away from him more intentionally.
In attempt to help you be more intentional next time you travel without your partner, I’ve created a list of tips, complete with examples, to ease the stress of travel on your relationship.
One of the first things we learn about having a successful relationship is that there needs to be healthy, proactive communication. Though, because we are all human, sometimes there is a lapse in this proactivity. You can’t turn back time to fix a mistake, but what you can do is aid in the healing of the situation at hand. One way to do this is to be accountable for your part of the relationship.
There are many things to be accountable for in a relationship, such as:
- Your actions: Acknowledge what you did so that you can move forward with your partner.
- Your words: The things you said can hurt just as much as your actions. Remain accountable for even the small things that may have distressed your partner.
- Your feelings: Take responsibility of yourself, own your feelings. Express to your partner how you are feeling in regards to a certain situation.