Oh, Valentine’s Day. There is so much buildup, so much pressure, to make it the most romantic day of the year.
Often we find ourselves buying the flowers, the sappy cards, the candy (many times at the last minute), or booking an overpriced room at a fancy hotel only to end up getting in a spat about where to park the car right before you check in, and just like that, the mood is lost and the evening ruined. On the other hand, if the day is spent like any other day, we feel as if we’re somehow missing out, that our relationship isn’t as strong, or passionate, or loving as the ones we see plastered across social media.
Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to make this one day perfect when our relationships and the paths we’ve walked together are usually far from flawless? Why do we tend to subscribe to the cookie cutter notions of romance when we all have different preferences and ideas about what we consider romantic?
This year, I encourage you to celebrate Valentine’s Day (or February 17th, or June 24th, or any random day really) by sharing and delighting in the imperfect, the weird, the quirky ideas of romance that are unique to you as a couple. Maybe your ideal day together is spent in pajamas, playing Scrabble, and making breakfast for dinner. Maybe you like to go running together or go to the park and throw the Frisbee to your dogs. Maybe going to the mall for people-watching, instead of shopping, is your thing.
Are these activities glamorous or super-exciting? Eh, not everyone would say so. Does general media depict them as the ideal way to spend your Valentine’s Day? Not so much. Does this mean that they can’t be romantic? Absolutely not! The day should be about your relationship and what makes your relationship unique. Even if you are the only two people in the world who see the romantic potential in your activities of choice, well hey, there’s a reason you’re together, right? And if the flowers, cards, and chocolates are still your thing, well who am I to judge? 🙂