Guest Contributor: Marriage in a Box
(Destiny Girard, LMFT, Maria Sappe, LMFT, & Brad Whiteman)
The Marriage In A Box system was designed by a licensed marriage and family therapist to be used in conjunction with couple’s therapy or in the privacy of the couple’s home. It is a unique and practical approach for working through the most common issues encountered in relationships. Together, couples can examine issues, set goals, track progress, and reinforce their successes – resulting in an improved relationship. Partners can customize a plan suited for their individual needs, with a variety of supportive tools and practices to address a range of concerns.
Whoever said that marriage is easy and does not require work, must have never been married or in a committed relationship! All relationships, no matter how wonderful and fulfilling they are, require work from both partners on a regular basis. Making a relationship work, however, does not require extensive amounts of time and will look different for all couples.
The experts at Marriage In A Box have observed that it only takes an average of 15 minutes a day to improve one’s marriage. In today’s fast-paced world, 15 minutes spent on improving your relationship is manageable for practically everyone – it only means watching one less television show or staying up a few minutes later at night to talk.
Need a kickstart for that conversation? The therapists at Marriage in a Box have created a system of activities that couples can do to work on their relationship. These exercises include:
♥ Learning how to communicate effectively through the use of “I-statements.”
♥ Validating what your spouse is saying or feeling.
♥ Complimenting your spouse and letting them know that you appreciate them.
♥ Spending uninterrupted time together (no children, phones, dogs, etc.).
♥ Engaging in hobbies or shared interests together, such as hiking, kayaking, painting, trying new restaurants, etc.
♥ Taking the time to show your spouse that you love them, which includes acts of physical intimacy.
♥ Leaving love notes for one another or sending random e-mails/texts throughout the day to express your love for your partner.
♥ Working as a team to conquer difficult tasks, such as family finances, upcoming events or parenting.
♥ Doing something that you know your spouse will appreciate – whether it’s surprising them with a dozen roses or doing the dishes unexpectedly.
Try creating a small goal for yourself each week of something that you can do to improve your relationship. You will be surprised what a big difference can be made by creating small changes in your daily interactions with your significant other!