You know what? Weddings are expensive. The beautiful venue, delicious food, trendy entertainment, stunning dress, personalized invitations, crafty decorations, photographer with the perfect eye, adorable favors, so on and so forth, it adds up. I spent just over $20,000 on my (small) wedding years ago and comparing that to others, turns out it was inexpensive! Wedding websites like theknot.com suggest the average cost of a wedding to be just over $31,000. Regardless of your financial situation, that’s a lot of money to spend on one day.
Assuming you spent a decent amount on your wedding, let me ask you – how much money have you invested in your marriage since your wedding?
My guess is $0.
You might have taken a premarital education course through your church before your wedding, but it’s estimated that only 35-40% of engaged couples receive any premarital counseling. This is startling given the fact that premarital education has been shown to reduce divorce by 30% (source: The Couple Checkup).
Whether you benefited from premarital counseling or not, there are many ways to strengthen your marriage after the wedding. And if you aren’t married, don’t worry; premarital counseling isn’t the only reason to check in with your partner about the strength and growth areas of your relationship.
Here’s another question for you: if you spent $20,000 on your wedding, what would you be willing to invest in your marriage?
$10? $20? $45? $100?
The good thing is there are tools out there for you to use to work on your marriage. Just Google “marriage enrichment tools” and you’ll find books, programs, assessments, and online communities that can help you and your partner gain a better understanding of the strengths you already possess and maybe some areas where you could build your skills a little more. One of the most affordable tools out there is the Couple Checkup assessment.
Couple Checkup is an online assessment that will show you a snapshot of your relationship. It covers topics like communication, conflict resolution, financial management, and sexual relationship. The cool part is that it customizes to your relationship, so it really covers areas relevant to you and your partner’s situation. I’ve taken the Checkup before and found it to be a great tool to use to check in with my husband. One area that was low for us was communication — which is a pretty big part of a relationship! Once we worked through a few exercises in the discussion guide (a free download you get at the end of the assessment!), we totally saw our communication improve. The best part is Couple Checkup is only $19.95 through February 14th! Would you invest $19.95 in your marriage? Before you answer, think back to how much you spent on your wedding!
In order to honestly recommend something to you, I do want to disclose that I work for PREPARE/ENRICH, which powers Couple Checkup. Even though I’m a little biased towards Couple Checkup, I’m not alone in thinking it’s a great, affordable way to check in on your marriage– these bloggers think so too: Jo, My Gosh; Friday We’re In Love; A Prioritized Marriage; Enduring All Things; Jessica Lynn Writes; Simply Elliott
You might have the idea that something has to be wrong in your marriage in order for you to have a reason to work on it. This is not true. Even the healthiest, strongest relationships can benefit from a little extra care.
And if you’ve got it all figured out (or at least enough to set a good example and give some insight) – consider becoming a Marriage Mentor in your church or community. It can be very rewarding.
The Couple Checkup assessment is discounted this week, February 7th-14th, to just $19.95 (reg. $35) at www.couplecheckup.com. Set up your account today and watch your relationship grow tomorrow. Check out #CheckInWithCheckup for relationship tips and insights all month long.