Recently, my husband and I had an argument about how to get rid of some junk in our garage. I wanted to post it on Craig’s List for free. He wanted to take it to the dump. I didn’t want to pay to get rid of it. He didn’t want it sitting on our front yard. We compromised and agreed that I could post it on Craig’s list for three days and if it wasn’t gone he could take it to the dump. Three days later, very little of it had been picked up and my husband had figured out what could be taken to the Reuse Center and what needed to go to the dump. Read More
The 2016 Rio Olympics have come to a close and for those who have watched, we have been inspired by seeing the fruits of the Olympians’ years of preparation and labor. What can we learn from Olympians to inspire our pursuit of a “Gold Medal Marriage”?
- Olympians work at it every day. They daily-discipline themselves to do what they ought to do, not what they want to do. In marriage that may mean holding our tongue, doing the dishes, or actively listening to each other.
- Olympians build on each other’s strengths. Synchronized swimming teams identify who is the best person to do the lifting and who is the best person to be lifted. Once those roles are identified, the coach trains each person to excel in their role. What are your strengths? What are your partner’s strengths? Have you defined roles and responsibilities to align with each other’s strengths? Read More
I fight with my husband from time to time. It happens because conflict happens. We disagree, but then we figure it out and move forward. Sounds easy, right? Not exactly, but it is easier now that he and I understand more about ourselves and our relationship.
Until just recently, every time we disagreed, we would find ourselves frustrated and in this cycle. I’d move closer, he’d move farther away. Thinking he needed space, I’d reluctantly back off. He’d feel comfortable again and move closer. Just as I’d warm up to being close again, he’d start to retreat, needing more space. We stumbled in and out of this pattern for years. Not entirely understanding why, but understanding this was us. Read More