5 Small Ways You Can Support Each Other Every Day

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If there’s one thing we’re learning right now, it’s that the adage is true: the little things are the big things. Taking time to enjoy the little things, feeling gratitude for them, and putting effort into doing them for others can turn a blah day into a great one. It’s all about perspective.

Your partner is probably one of the people you’re spending the most time with right now, so the seemingly small ways in which you show up for each other during this time can make a huge difference. Here are five examples:

Listen.
If your partner needs to vent, let them vent. If they need to verbalize their worries, be a listening ear. You don’t have to solve anything or offer up solutions; simply hear them. Hug them. Validate their feelings. Just be sure you’re giving your full attention (and not looking at your phone).

Cut each other slack.
Neither of you might be at your best right now. You might be stressed, worried, and anxious, or get snippy without meaning to. Or you might feel a surge of annoyance at the same old things—dirty socks left on the floor or cabinet doors let askew. Give each other grace. Take a deep breath and count to ten if you have to, but try to bite your tongue. At the end of the day, getting upset over socks isn’t going to help anyone.

Be flexible.
Chances are your day-to-day routines have been pretty much upended. Depending on your work situation and if you have children, you’ve both had to adapt. Whether you’re flying by the seat of your pants or you’ve pieced together a bit of a routine, remain flexible. Do what you can to accommodate and help each other out. Working together will help things run more smoothly, even when it seems anything but.

Make each other laugh.
Maintaining a sense of humor is important in general, but especially during difficult times. Show off your non-existent rap skills, play a silly prank, do your best Joe Exotic impression. Laughing together creates a bright spot in your day, releases endorphins, and relieves tension. A good laugh might be just what you both need after being bound to a laptop for hours.

Ask them what they need.
Do they need help cleaning up after dinner? Do they just need 20 minutes of being alone in silence? Even if they don’t take you up on the offer, the simple act of asking (and being ready to take action if necessary) is an easy way to check in with each other throughout the day and an opportunity to support those partners that have a hard time asking for any help.

These things seem obvious, like things you should do to support each other normally and not just during a global crisis. And that’s probably true. But right now, these habits are more important than ever. So what “little things” are you doing these days? Or conversely, what little things have become your big things? Let us know!

17 thoughts to “5 Small Ways You Can Support Each Other Every Day”

  1. EXCELLENT!!! My wife and I have been engaging each point to a fairly good extent for 53 years, now. Yet, significant “refreshers” such as these keep us on our toes. As to the “…slack” thing, I’d say when you don’t manage to do the breath, ten or tongue bite, a “sorry,” is a start, but I’ve learned (and taught) that a “Will you forgive me,” takes that aspect of the relationship to a deeper level. It makes you vulnerable, which helps better realize within your own spirit, how serious the matter may have been, where you might have otherwise gotten off too easily. I.e. Makes an imprint in your heart to be really more careful next time. That’s not to mention what it says to the offended mate about your sincerity.

  2. Thank you for the love-filled insight; all the glory to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! Let us try to always be seeing things through His eyes and therefore, completely placing things in the proper perspective!!

  3. I think outs equally important to pray together and read the Word of God to one another..i it also doesn’t hurt to find some praise and worship songs that you both enjoy singing in Thanksgiving..i find it can ease the days tension.

  4. This is a very good and effective message for this time period.
    This forced situation where, economically and in life, we have been placed in a medically induced coma with hopes that we will eventually survive and hopefully thrive is difficult.
    We need messages and reminders such as these.

  5. Thank you for sharing. Remembering your anniversary needs to be on there too. Lol. We get so busy and focused on “projects”, work and stuff, and sometimes lose sight of what day it is. Praise The Lord that my wife is so loving and understanding.

  6. We each have “permission” to take a drive or walk, etc alone if we need it. We are together all the time now, since we are both working from home, and my son is finishing up the school year with e-learning. It helps that we each have our own designated workspace as well. We do try to keep somewhat of a routine of work hours, chores, etc. However we do relax rules regarding screen time, junk food, etc. Just trying to keep everyone happy!

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