If there’s one thing we’re learning right now, it’s that the adage is true: the little things are the big things. Taking time to enjoy the little things, feeling gratitude for them, and putting effort into doing them for others can turn a blah day into a great one. It’s all about perspective.
Your partner is probably one of the people you’re spending the most time with right now, so the seemingly small ways in which you show up for each other during this time can make a huge difference. Here are five examples:
If your partner needs to vent, let them vent. If they need to verbalize their worries, be a listening ear. You don’t have to solve anything or offer up solutions; simply hear them. Hug them. Validate their feelings. Just be sure you’re giving your full attention (and not looking at your phone).
Cut each other slack.
Neither of you might be at your best right now. You might be stressed, worried, and anxious, or get snippy without meaning to. Or you might feel a surge of annoyance at the same old things—dirty socks left on the floor or cabinet doors let askew. Give each other grace. Take a deep breath and count to ten if you have to, but try to bite your tongue. At the end of the day, getting upset over socks isn’t going to help anyone.
Chances are your day-to-day routines have been pretty much upended. Depending on your work situation and if you have children, you’ve both had to adapt. Whether you’re flying by the seat of your pants or you’ve pieced together a bit of a routine, remain flexible. Do what you can to accommodate and help each other out. Working together will help things run more smoothly, even when it seems anything but.
Make each other laugh.
Maintaining a sense of humor is important in general, but especially during difficult times. Show off your non-existent rap skills, play a silly prank, do your best Joe Exotic impression. Laughing together creates a bright spot in your day, releases endorphins, and relieves tension. A good laugh might be just what you both need after being bound to a laptop for hours.
Ask them what they need.
Do they need help cleaning up after dinner? Do they just need 20 minutes of being alone in silence? Even if they don’t take you up on the offer, the simple act of asking (and being ready to take action if necessary) is an easy way to check in with each other throughout the day and an opportunity to support those partners that have a hard time asking for any help.
These things seem obvious, like things you should do to support each other normally and not just during a global crisis. And that’s probably true. But right now, these habits are more important than ever. So what “little things” are you doing these days? Or conversely, what little things have become your big things? Let us know!