are like a measuring stick that we hold our reality up against. If they’re too
high, you’re going to feel pretty disappointed in the state of things. Too low,
and you might be settling for less than you should.
context of relationships, expectations play a huge role in how happy and
satisfied you feel. But the process of learning how to manage them in a healthy
way can come with its own set of growing pains. Why? What makes it so hard?
Well, one reason is that oftentimes we don’t even realize we have them, or if
we do, we don’t understand where they came from.
Relationships are a two-way street. We strive to make our partner happy and be someone they can rely on, and in turn we hope they’ll do the same for us. But that doesn’t mean that our happiness in the relationship is completely out of our hands. In fact, there are things we can do individually – today – to give our relationship satisfaction a boost.
get annoyed with our partner from time to time. It’s inevitable. Sometimes it’s
the little day-to-day things – their habits, quirks, or moments of
forgetfulness. The laundry that they’ve tossed on the floor, not filling up the
car with gas despite there being only a smidge left, leaving the carton of milk
out on the counter. Or maybe it’s the repetitive habits like cracking knuckles,
smacking gum, or clicking of a pen when they’re making the grocery list or
working on paying the bills.
there are the bigger things that usually don’t happen all that often, but that
really annoy us to the point of questioning our partner’s intentions. Things
like double-scheduling an event on a day they knew we had other plans, or not
doing a task we specifically asked them to do. We wonder how they could be so
inconsiderate, instead of seeing it as an innocent mistake.
way, we get annoyed. But what we do with that annoyed feeling, how we deal with
it, makes all the difference in the impact on your relationship in the long
term. Annoyance can go unaddressed and turn into frustration and resentment, or
you can tackle it head on and resolve it before those insidious emotions take
When the world slowed down for a few months, many of us got a taste of what it was like to have more free time, albeit free time stuck at home. We learned how to bake new treats (banana bread? sourdough?), organized every drawer and cabinet, and maybe even took on some home improvement projects. But by now, we’re all itching to do the things we postponed or longed for during our days at home. On top of that anticipation, it’s also summer, which usually brings long weekends, vacations, and lots of get-togethers. What were previously “normal” decisions might now be met with a new sense of unease or anxiousness about being with and around others. Combine these factors with the urge to make up for the adventures we would’ve had this spring, and you have a situation that could lead to some heated discussions with your partner about where and how you’ll spend your precious free time.
Suffice it to say, this summer brings some new challenges for your relationship.
We’ve heard it before. Relationships can, and will (if we let them), fall in a rut. We know they take energy, we know they take effort, we’ve heard this all before. Amongst the extensive amount of stale relationship advice we’ve heard time and time again, this one stands out as most over-used.
But what if we told you that putting in the effort in a new and exciting way can actually make you a happier couple? Read More