New Year, new you, nice try. We all fall into the same trap of “new year’s resolutions.” This time, year after year, gym prices become “discounted,” self-help books flood our Instagram feeds, and green shakes capitalize the end caps of our local supermarket. We are overwhelmed with the idea that we can change ourselves if we try just hard enough, so let’s push ourselves to reach that yearly goal. Unfortunately, it’s easy to fall into this cyclical way of thinking every year. Are you focusing your energy on changing the right things? Read More
I recently read a (fictional) book about a woman, Alice, who takes a fall at the gym and bumps her head. After a series of comical and confusion-filled interactions, she eventually figures out that she has completely forgotten the last ten years of her life. In her head, she’s 30 years old, happily married to the love of her life, and expecting her first child. In reality, she’s getting ready to celebrate the big 4-0, has three children, and is going through a hostile divorce. I’m sure you can imagine the hilarity—and awkwardness—that ensues.
The main storyline of the book revolves around Alice’s inability to reconcile the present-day state of her marriage with the one from ten years ago, which she believes is the present. What could have possibly happened in the past ten years to make them fall out of love with each other? Read More
Your marriage (or future marriage) will be the adventure of a lifetime.
You will literally journey through clearings of joy and fulfillment, canyons of darkness and life’s challenges, and valleys of hope, passion, and love. You will push and pull yourselves through the balance of staying connected to family and friends while establishing yourself as a couple, and you will have the potential to experience the freedom of growing alongside a partner who supports and encourages your individual growth.
It would be nice to have some guidelines, or a map of sorts, to help you out along the journey, would you agree?
Have you ever woken up one morning, nothing is actually wrong, but you feel like you’ve got a huge weight on your shoulders? Or that your body aches, even though you darn well know you didn’t exercise the night before? Or that it seems to take much more concentration to smile than usual? We all have self-pity days – days where nothing is actually wrong but we can’t shake this overwhelming feeling of melancholy.
Discomfort is a natural part of life, not usually one we like to shine a light on. A part we tend to shove in a dark corner and pretend like it doesn’t exist. However, we should bring those feelings to light and talk about them so we can normalize a completely natural part of life. Read More
Planning a wedding has been classically described as a huge undertaking of time that costs a lot of money and has a ton of moving parts. With the average US wedding costing nearly $27,000, this description is a reality for many couples. From selecting the perfect dress, to the beautiful venue, to delicious food, and enjoyable entertainment, the task seems daunting. Especially when well-meaning family, friends, and about-to-be in-laws jump in with opinions as well as society as a whole suggesting the wedding has to happen in a certain way.
I’ll let you in on a little secret – Read More
Let’s raise a glass to 13 years of marriage. If you’ve surpassed that milestone, you probably won’t learn a darned thing from me, but hopefully I can make you laugh a little.
So here you have it, my 13 hilarious lessons from 13 years of marriage. Read More
Time and time again, couples are faced with the struggle of defining their roles in their relationships. Who will clean the bathroom this weekend? Who is going to make dinner tomorrow? Who will wash the dishes tonight? What may start out as a simple chore can catapult into a battle for acknowledgement, assurance, or even power.
How often are you faced with the struggle of doing the laundry for the third time this month because your partner doesn’t seem to be bothered when the laundry basket begins to topple over with dirty clothes? You know it is their turn to do it, but you wish they would do it without you having to ask them. Read More
I fight with my husband from time to time. It happens because conflict happens. We disagree, but then we figure it out and move forward. Sounds easy, right? Not exactly, but it is easier now that he and I understand more about ourselves and our relationship.
Until just recently, every time we disagreed, we would find ourselves frustrated and in this cycle. I’d move closer, he’d move farther away. Thinking he needed space, I’d reluctantly back off. He’d feel comfortable again and move closer. Just as I’d warm up to being close again, he’d start to retreat, needing more space. We stumbled in and out of this pattern for years. Not entirely understanding why, but understanding this was us. Read More
Do you like your partner’s personality? That might sound like a ridiculous question to some people. “Of course I do!
Why would I be with him/her if I didn’t?” Please note that this is not the same as “do you love your partner?” You may (or may not) be surprised to learn that many people spend a lot of time trying to change aspects of his/her partner’s personality or secretly hope that one day their “annoying” traits will magically cease. Read More